Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Thursday, June 4, 2009

I am The Boss of the house!

I was enlightened by the supreme wisdom of the Lord the other day when I accidentally landed upon a brilliant saying that went ‘My wife allows me to say that I am the Boss of the house!’ If you are laughing at the deep insight that this quote offers, you are either the man who has been through this (even if it is not literally!!) or the woman who is possessed with the ultimate authority over her husband and proudly acclaims the same!! If you are none of the above, pardon me for saying that you are possessed with a ruthless mind that makes fun of the agony that married men go through!

Coming back to the point of the quote, it drives home the essence of the lives of married men that no matter how authoritative you are outside your home, it’s the woman who rules the roost at home! The reason simply being that she is the one with the unfathomable mind! This reminds me of a parable about an old sage who was once asked by one of his followers “Oh Master, how should I to lead a life that brings lasting happiness to my better half, my soul mate?” The sage nodded as if in deep thought, then looked up to the disciple and uttered just one line: “If I had known the answer to this eternal question, do you think I would have been in this place today?”

The story does not end here; some proclaim that even God has never got a complete insight into the mind of the woman though he was the one who created her. It’s said that after He created the World, He rested. Thereafter, He created man and then rested again. But the turning point in even God’s life came when He created the woman. After that neither God, nor man rested!! (Some intelligent dude furthered this story by adding that God was smart enough to create ‘Shopping’ after this so that both He and man could get some rest!!)

So my dear folks, the assured way to be happy is to let your wife be the boss (and it’s not as if she isn’t already!). If she is kind enough, she will allow you to say that ‘You’ are the boss and you can enjoy this liberty as long as you keep her happy. And now if you ask me how to keep her happy, I have another secret coming your way. I shall reveal the same to you for the benefit of mankind and it goes thus: ‘To keep a woman happy, you must love her a lot and never ever try to understand her’. An off-the-track suggestion for the woman out there “To keep a man happy, you must love him little but understand a lot.”

Friday, February 8, 2008

Precious times ahead!

This morning I saw an old couple get into the bus I take to work everyday. Nothing unusual about this…all kinds of people come and go…nevertheless there was something about them that kept me looking at them. Each of these two got a place to sit in different areas of the bus. As soon as the old man's neighboring seat got empty, he called out to his wife and got up for her to be seated besides him close to the window. She smiled, sat down besides him and they traveled the rest of the journey without saying a word. Both of them kept looking out of the window without saying anything, yet they were so comfortable in the presence of each other. They must be 70+ I guess and I assume they must have been married for at least 40-45 years + going by the standards of marriage in India at that time.

I was so pleased to see them together even though I didn't know them and had never seen them before either. It was just that I could feel the pleasure of being with someone who cares for you, who loves you and who has been with you for so many years - all through the ups and downs of everyday lives!

I wish u cared enough for me like this…I treasure every moment spent with you and don’t feel like losing a single one but you are too pre-occupied with work to notice my presence at all, at times. May be you will notice my absence one day when I'll be gone! I don’t blame you for all this but I don’t seem to understand that if I can manage my work and yet be with you every moment, why can't you? Am I expecting too much from you? If yes, I don’t mean to pressurize you in any way…I will try to go on with my work and not expect anything from you! Maybe this will make things easier for you as well as me. It will need a mountain of an effort from me simply because I love you so much…but I am willing to try. Just for the sake of seeing both of us together one day….years later…just like the old couple I saw this morning in the bus I take to work!